Props- Pets

I have heard of many men buying, borrowing or stealing cute fluffy animals to get women. It works like a charm however, does it work for women too???

I have recently bought a japanese spitz, pictured. He is cute, friendly and matches all of my outfits.

As a bit of an experiment I have been taking him around town to see how people react to him. Women love him as he is cute and cuddly. Men use him as the 'icebreaker' to talk to me.

Unfortunately, this icebreaking effect has its good and bad points. It is great as I have made a lot of new friends. It is bad as I seem to have met a large portion of the homeless population in the park.

For women, I would recommend getting a cute animal as it gives men a reason to ask you out. For men, I would definitely get an animal as lots of women will flock to you.

Evelyn.

Louis Vuitton- Fall/Winter 2010 = Lady

Bourgeois

Light reading:

Preppy Handbook: (A revamp from the 1980's edition.)

http://www.vanityfair.com/society/features/2010/09/the-new-preppy-201009?currentPage=2

True Prep: Its a whole new old world

http://www.amazon.com/True-Prep-Its-Whole-World/dp/0307593983/ref=pd_sim_b_1

The Game- Neil Strauss (A must for any pick up artist or woman trying to understand the pick up artist.)

http://www.amazon.com/Game-Penetrating-Secret-Society-Artists/dp/0060554738/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1282571051&sr=1-1

Movies:

Sabrina- Audrey Hepburn, Humphrey Bogart. A peak for how men treated women in the 1940's and 50's. Some great ideas of how to be a gentleman. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0047437/

Casablanca- Ingrid Bergman, Humphrey Bogart. The most famous love story in film history.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0034583/

The Rocky Horror Picture Show- The 70's was a horrible time for film. This film shows a transition between conservatism and the counter culture.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0073629/

Metropolitan- Upper Middle Class yuppies falling in love.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0100142/

The Last Days of Disco- Upper Middle Class yuppies fresh out of college who frequent a manhattan disco.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0120728/

Evelyn.

CSP's

I have thought about this topic for a while but was never exactly sure what kind of opinion I had on it. I always knew that I wasn't the kind of girl to go for these types of relationships but a lot of my acquaintances were in relationships like these.

I know many feminist women believe that by having sex with many men that they are 'in control' of their destinies. I would beg to differ. Women who don't have sex with men on the first date (or lots of men) can usually have any man they want. Men like to chase for things that they can’t have instantly.

I have sort of deviated a little from the initial topic. Moving on, what I would say about 'modern casual' relationships is that they don't benefit women in any way and abstractly they don't benefit men either.

It is pretty obvious why they don't benefit women. The reason for this is that typically, unless you are Samantha from Sex and The City, women become attached to men during sex. Therefore a woman can never have meaningless sex and usually want their casual relations to turn into something more. They never will.

For men the benefit of these relationships is to have meaningless sex and not suffer the consequences of if they were committed. Abstractly casual relations can be negative for men. The reason for this is attachment. We discussed this in the previous paragraph. Women can become obsessed with the man after an encounter. This can create all sorts of nuisances from a male perspective.

It is best to steer clear of these relationships. They might be thrilling for a minute but at the end of the day you will just be branded a slut or a bastard.

NB: Watch the film 'The Graduate'.

Evelyn.

Kiwi's don't break hearts

Last week I took a trip to New Zealand. I wasn't expecting New Zealand to be too much different from Australia but it seems it is. I think the most interesting difference is how they approach romance.

Here in Australia I am constantly hassled for dates in my day to day dealings. From my dog's vet, the GP giving me my flu shot, the local plumber and the guy at the fruit store. Just to name a few. This doesn't happen in New Zealand.

I was a little disappointed that I wasn't getting as much attention in New Zealand so I decided to find out why. To cut a long process short it seems that in New Zealand you need to be introduced to someone before they will ask you out. The Kiwi men are not as confident as their Australian friends.

I found this out by attending the Auckland club. Once I had introduced myself to the locals they took an interest in grabbing coffee and exchanging details.

Evelyn.

Charm

I am sure that you would have heard that 'conversation is an art'. It most definitely is. Knowing what to say as well as when and how to say it separates the truly charming characters from the rest.

Most people believe that 'charm' is something you are born with. I would tend to disagree with this statement. Charm is something that can be learned. I used to be a very shy person but now many people tell me I am charming. How did I do this?

"Once you can fake sincerity, you have it all!"

There is a lot of truth to this saying and faking it was my strategy. For about a year I pretended I was the most interesting person in the room. I would approach strangers at parties and request conversation. I would ask a lot of questions of the people who I was talking to, to get them interested. After all everyone loves to talk about themselves.

After a year of shaking in my boots at the thought of going to another party, I became comfortable 'working the room'. Next thing I know I have made many connections and friends. People began to tell me that I am very charming.

Try faking that you are confident. It will not come overnight. You will be nervous for a while but eventually you will thank yourself for giving it a try.

Evelyn.

Women to watch out for.

"Keeps your friends close and your enemies closer."

This phrase has a lot of credence when it comes to protecting your man from other women. I have decided to list a few occupations (your husband may be practicing as) and point ou

t the 'prime home-wreckers'.

DOCTORS

Today, it is a common mistake to think that doctors marry nurses. Nurses are not what they used to be. Today nurses are lower class people. These women think that they can get your man and will certainly try but they are not your real concern. (Please watch them as nurses can get quite vicious.)

Picture on the left is a nurse from 1950. The picture below is a nurse today. You can probably spot the difference in class and attraction.

The women that you should watch for if you marry a doctor would be the niche health professionals such as occupational therapists, other doctors and psychologists. (There are many more) If you are not working at the same hospital or don't work in health ensure that you have lunch with your doc husband at work to assert to the women he works with who you are. They are less likely to try to hit on him if you are well known. I never really believed that you would have to go to these lengths to keep a doctor from being led astray. A wonderful friend aged 60 (who was a doctors wife) said it was very important to know this as she almost lost her husband before she asserted herself.

LAWYERS

Similar advice goes for lawyers. Keep your lawyer husband from employing a 'hot' secretary. It is also quite common for lawyers to marry lawyers so try to assert your position to the female lawyers at work. The picture above is of Ally Mcbeal, an attractive female lawyer.

The other group to watch (if your husband is a divorce lawyer) is the young soon to be rich divorcees. Often a lot of lawyers go for their female clients who are getting divorces.

If your un-sure write in and ask.

Evelyn.