Charm

I am sure that you would have heard that 'conversation is an art'. It most definitely is. Knowing what to say as well as when and how to say it separates the truly charming characters from the rest.

Most people believe that 'charm' is something you are born with. I would tend to disagree with this statement. Charm is something that can be learned. I used to be a very shy person but now many people tell me I am charming. How did I do this?

"Once you can fake sincerity, you have it all!"

There is a lot of truth to this saying and faking it was my strategy. For about a year I pretended I was the most interesting person in the room. I would approach strangers at parties and request conversation. I would ask a lot of questions of the people who I was talking to, to get them interested. After all everyone loves to talk about themselves.

After a year of shaking in my boots at the thought of going to another party, I became comfortable 'working the room'. Next thing I know I have made many connections and friends. People began to tell me that I am very charming.

Try faking that you are confident. It will not come overnight. You will be nervous for a while but eventually you will thank yourself for giving it a try.

Evelyn.