Charm

I am sure that you would have heard that 'conversation is an art'. It most definitely is. Knowing what to say as well as when and how to say it separates the truly charming characters from the rest.

Most people believe that 'charm' is something you are born with. I would tend to disagree with this statement. Charm is something that can be learned. I used to be a very shy person but now many people tell me I am charming. How did I do this?

"Once you can fake sincerity, you have it all!"

There is a lot of truth to this saying and faking it was my strategy. For about a year I pretended I was the most interesting person in the room. I would approach strangers at parties and request conversation. I would ask a lot of questions of the people who I was talking to, to get them interested. After all everyone loves to talk about themselves.

After a year of shaking in my boots at the thought of going to another party, I became comfortable 'working the room'. Next thing I know I have made many connections and friends. People began to tell me that I am very charming.

Try faking that you are confident. It will not come overnight. You will be nervous for a while but eventually you will thank yourself for giving it a try.

Evelyn.

Women to watch out for.

"Keeps your friends close and your enemies closer."

This phrase has a lot of credence when it comes to protecting your man from other women. I have decided to list a few occupations (your husband may be practicing as) and point ou

t the 'prime home-wreckers'.

DOCTORS

Today, it is a common mistake to think that doctors marry nurses. Nurses are not what they used to be. Today nurses are lower class people. These women think that they can get your man and will certainly try but they are not your real concern. (Please watch them as nurses can get quite vicious.)

Picture on the left is a nurse from 1950. The picture below is a nurse today. You can probably spot the difference in class and attraction.

The women that you should watch for if you marry a doctor would be the niche health professionals such as occupational therapists, other doctors and psychologists. (There are many more) If you are not working at the same hospital or don't work in health ensure that you have lunch with your doc husband at work to assert to the women he works with who you are. They are less likely to try to hit on him if you are well known. I never really believed that you would have to go to these lengths to keep a doctor from being led astray. A wonderful friend aged 60 (who was a doctors wife) said it was very important to know this as she almost lost her husband before she asserted herself.

LAWYERS

Similar advice goes for lawyers. Keep your lawyer husband from employing a 'hot' secretary. It is also quite common for lawyers to marry lawyers so try to assert your position to the female lawyers at work. The picture above is of Ally Mcbeal, an attractive female lawyer.

The other group to watch (if your husband is a divorce lawyer) is the young soon to be rich divorcees. Often a lot of lawyers go for their female clients who are getting divorces.

If your un-sure write in and ask.

Evelyn.

Thoughts from July

It has only very recently occurred to me that the power women have in relationships decreases as the years tick by. It is something that hadn't even registered in my mind until a couple of MARRIED men became interested in me.

Before I move on I would just like to say that 'ladies' NEVER date married men. It is morally wrong to break up a marriage or any type of relationship. It is also common knowledge that married men rarely leave their wives for 'the other woman'. The only successful people at breaking up marriages are 'uber crazy manipulative bitches.' If your ever interested just think how you would feel if your husband cheated on you with someone half your age.

Moving on, this week I had 3 married men interested in going out. Married men are either looking for 1) A slut or 2) Someone like their wife who will pay them attention. Now I would never date a married man but after talking to a few of them it seems they all have the same story.

"My wife (who he still loves) has just had a baby and no longer pays me any attention."

When I heard this story the first time I thought it was rubbish. The second time I thought it was a coincidence. The third time I heard it I decided that there must be 'some' truth to the tale.

As ladies I truly believe that we can learn from this example. It is awful that these men hit on young women when they are married. We need to realize that these situations can happen so easily so we need to learn to prevent them. My grandmother gave me this advice which I believe is the best advice a girl could hear when she is young.

"When you get married work part-time or not at all. Make sure you give your husband

1. Lots of sex (otherwise he will find sex another way)

2. Lots of kisses, cuddles and love

3. When he comes home from work give him a cool drink and ask him what happened during his day.

4. Praise him for all his hard work. (Men love to hear that they are working hard to support the family)"

Evelyn.

Older Men

My grandmother always used to say that ‘the quickest way to double your income is to get married.’ How does this relate to dating older men?

I am sure by now that you are well aware of why women like to get married and have meaningful relationships. It goes back to the primitive days of when women needed a man to provide for her. Today, we want a husband who can provide for us and someone we can parade in front of our friends. For example: ‘My husband is doctor.’ Don’t pretend you haven’t done it at least once.

Single older gentlemen can fulfil all these expectations in the blink of an eye. They are successful, rich, entertaining and after young wives. As I have said previously ‘men are very aesthetic creatures’ they want their partner to be beautiful. In saying this it is widely known that once a many reaches 35 he can’t actually tell who is attractive and who isn’t. ANY young girl looks good.

Ladies, next time you want a boyfriend try dating someone 10-15 years your senior. You will be pleasantly surprised.

Evelyn.

Managing a lady like appearance

Dress Sense

Dressing like a lady doesn’t mean that you have to dress like a puritan. A lady must always look well presented and put together. I also like to tell women that there is a clear difference in dressing to impress men and dressing to impress women.

Dressing to impress men is far easier than dressing to make your female friends jealous. Women like interesting pieces such as leather jackets, sequined skirts and clogs. Men prefer simple well-cut clothes that show off a woman’s figure. They always prefer natural fabrics to man made ones. Try to wear skirts and dresses instead of pants. Skirts should be either just above the knee or just below the knee. Too short and you will look like a tart.

Colour

Women often ask me what colours they should be wearing. I believe that there are many answers to this question as we all have such different colouring. I will explore this in detail in a later blog. I have asked a number of men generally which colours they like and it seems to be, black, navy blue, red, pink and yellow. I want to just point out that when wearing black, make sure that your makeup brings out your facial features. Wearing black will always draw attention to your face. If your face isn’t your best feature wear red, pink or yellow. This will soften your face.

Evelyn.

How to Spot a Nice Man.

Finding a nice man is the MOST difficult part of the dating process. They are few and far between. If you are able to catch one make sure you HOLD onto him.

A common mistake of many woman is to be attracted to bastards. They are the 'bad boys' of the male population. They don't need to drive a motorcycle or drink like a fish. Bastards could be the nice conservative guy in the desk next to you at work.

As I have said nice men are difficult to spot. Here are some tips on finding them.

1. Don't attempt to date the most attractive man. He usually knows he is incredibly good looking and will pay more attention to his reflection than yours.

2. This will sound silly but kind men project a 'kind' aura. You will be able to tell by being around them for a while.

3. If you are lucky enough to hear him talk to his mother on the phone this is a fantastic tool to see how he will treat you.

4. Introduce him to a sister, brother or friend. They might be able to see things that you don't.

Evelyn.

Portrait of a Lady

Belle (Beauty and The Beast)

Nancy Reagan

Grace Kelly

The Slut Definition

Everyday we talk to our friends and family about who is and isn't a slut but I don't think many of us think about 'what is a slut?' Most of the time 'slut' is used to describe women we hate. Men brand women as sluts when they find out about a long sexual history.

Leaving that aside as young ladies we need to know who we have to defend our men from. The dictionary describes 'slut' as a
1. Dirty slovenly woman.
2. An immoral or dissolute woman; prostitute. (online dictionary, 2010)

As seen above the dictionary definition is very HARSH but needs to be acknowledged to understand that being branded a slut is undesirable and should be avoided at all costs.

Please exercise caution with this word as it can get a young lady into a lot of hot water with her friends.

Evelyn.

Primary steps to being asked out

Women often ask me 'how do you get asked out by so many wonderful men?' Firstly ladies I decided to develop some standards of my own.

My standards are
1. I only go out with Doctors, Lawyers and Business Men
2. I only go out with men who have conservative values
3. I only go out with men from good families

I would just like to reiterate, just because these are my standards they are not yours. Please work out your own standards. Also ensure that your standards are realistic. Not everyone can get the doctor or lawyer.

After you have developed your standards decide which men in your life are dateable. If you don't know any men try to meet as many as you can to see who you think you like.

Write down 5 men who you are attracted and could go out with. Having 5 realistic options ensures that you get asked out by one of these men.

My biggest rule is to NEVER ASK OUT A MAN. You don't need to if you play your cards right. This is how you do it.

EXAMPLE SCENARIO-

You are at a cocktail party and your love interest is there too.

1. Don't immediatly say hello to him when you get there. Work the room, ensure you say hello to everyone and say hello to him last. (If you are not a confident person, pretend you are. You will be suprised with the results. I never was confident until I faked it, now it comes naturally.)
2. Smile.
3. Say hello to 'your interest'. Ask them questions, talk about THEM. Answer questions about yourself but direct the conversation back to them. People love talking about themselves. Travel is often a safe topic.
4. Tell 'your interest' that you have to get a drink and leave him alone.
5. Go and talk to his MALE friends without him. (or another attractive man) Talk to them for 10 minutes. This should make him jealous.
6. Walk somewhere in the room but make it very obvious to him via eye contact.
7. He should come over to you. If he doesn't you should assume he is gay and attend the next party!

Evelyn.

What does the modern man get for free?

Modern Man
1. Sex
2. Support
3. Dumper Status

Modern Woman- What does she get from the modern man?
1. Meaningless sex
2. A broken heart

Vintage Man- what does he get?
1. Love
2. Support
3. Stability

Vintage Woman- what does a lady get?
1. Love
2. Romance
3. Marriage/ stability

What do you think?

Evelyn

What do men want?

Dear Ladies,

Many women don't realise that a lady has more power over who they date than the 'modern sexy woman.' These 'sexy' woman think that they can ask any man out. They also believe that these relationships will work out. Lets be honest, men will dump these women.

But what do men really want in a girlfriend? Lets start with what they don't want in a girlfriend.

1. Threatening women- these women threaten their manhood. Men want to be the rescuer so they don't want someone who doesn't need them. (You don't have to actually need rescuing, just appear to.)

2. Sluts- Men are happy to sleep with these women but will NEVER commit to them. NEVER sleep with a man on the first date. Wait at LEAST 2 months.

3. Women who dress like men- Men don't want to be going out with a man. Make sure you wear skirts and dresses all the time.

4. Stressed out women- Men have enough troubles in their working lives to worry about their girlfriends problems. You want to be a pleasure to be with not a burden.

What do men want in a girlfriend?

1. Women who are aesthetically pleasing- always dress well. Even if you are not the prettiest girl you can make yourself look good by dressing up. Never leave the house without make up, a pretty dress, shoes and a matching handbag.

2. Someone intelligent- men want to be able to talk to you. They also want someone they can show off to their co-workers, friends and family. Acting dumb is not the way to go. Follow what he is doing. Eg. If he is an investment banker read the Financial news. If he is a doctor, research the latest medical breakthroughs. If he is a plumber, read about the latest plumbing gadgets.

3. Someone with their own friends and life- this is just ensures that you are not too needy.

4. A happy and adventurous woman- Make sure that you are happy when you are around him. Men go weak at the knees for happy, smiling women. These women are infectious and men want to be around them all day.

Evelyn.

Forget Feminism

Dear Ladies,

I have long been a supporter of the feminist movement of the 1960's however, it recently occurred to me that we have been royally gypped.

Every day I hear stories around town of women being used by men. Typically, John will ask Jane out. Jane will really like John so she will go out with him and have sex with him on the first date to gain John's approval. John gets bored and meets Emily. The cycle continues and Jane and Emily both get hurt.

I want to write this blog to teach women how to have sucessful relationships with men. My grandmother taught me all her tricks of the trade and they 'ALL' work. I always act like a lady and men always treat me like a lady.

Please share your stories. I would love to hear them. Perhaps I can give some advice on how I would approach the situation. Then the rest is up to you.

Evelyn.